Reaching the end of this two weeks' school holidays, far too much of which have been spent in various levels of illness - my own, DH's, and both kids. And not enough in fun and excitement for anybody.
- DS has just been rushed to the last opening moments of the local White Cross to confirm an ear infection. Oh joy - antibiotics! I suppose, at least, this should mark an improvement.
We all deserve sparks in our lives - in face we all need these sparks, these little moments that quite frankly make it worth getting up in the morning...or in the night.
It can be extremely hard for mums to find these - we spend so much of ourselves in service to the family that often there's nothing left for treating ourselves well. And as a minimalist mum, I may fall even deeper into this trap:
- Attachment parenting philosophy certainly includes the mother taking care of herself, but with needy immature loudlings on tap all day and every day, it's not obvious how this blossoms from theory to reality
- My frugal side doesn't turn on and off like a switch - it's hard not to see extras as just that: extras and therefore unnecessary and therefore foregone! Many of my compatriots speak of budgets containing "play money" for them, but I don't have a primping account, just our usual scrimping one.
- So not for me the casual trip to the cafe for that pricey steaming scented cardboard cup or the hairdressers for a cut and colour of my coif, or to the jewelers to add to my bling. And I don't actually want it - I'm not forcing myself to be minimalist by denial.
- Off-duty time. I'm tempted to put this at numbers one and two! I'm reaching the end of the years when Nadia is with me basically always. From next week, she starts two mornings a week (and they can't call in sick). When I don't get a consecutive hour or two actually off duty, the tension mounts....
- Reading. My tastes have devolved away from anything serious and I devour chick-lit.
- Writing - this helps get bubbling ideas out of my head. Bubbling ideas are very uncomfortable
- Anything tasty that I can prepare with some care. Hot cocoa in a special cup with sprinkles, yum! Special note - in the pursuit of gratification, stuffing of food in mouth without care and preparation happens. It never works. It's totally unsatisfying.
- Bathing or grooming (thankfully hasn't included any nitpicking for some years) - sometimes as basic as trimming toenails or as fancy as painting them. Moisturising my feet. A bath or shower with time to dream....